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April 16, 2020 by Annette Simmons 5 Comments

Storytelling Moral Survival System: Part three

Is yellow the most important color?

Is yellow the most important color?

The Social Impact of Storytelling

Over the twenty years since The Story Factor was first published technology has accelerated communication, and with it the speed of storytelling, beyond our wildest imagination. Amid the revolutionary growth of all this digital media, video, database mining, and social media, Apple founder Steve Jobs commented that the “most powerful person in the world is the storyteller.” Jobs did not originate this thought. Hopi Indians have long said, “He who tells the stories rules the world.” But it was Jobs and his colleagues in the tech world who ushered in advances that magnify the power and magic of storytelling. Magic this powerful brings with it responsibility, so it’s essential to remember that to whom much is given, much is expected.

The biggest lesson over the last twenty years for storytellers is the realization that using technology to control a narrative in favor of a single point of view can silence other important points of view. The ancient story about five blind men describing five different parts of an elephant takes on new significance if you imagine that one of the blind men might now have a Twitter feed of 50 million followers. Through no fault of his own, his story describing only the elephant’s trunk—the only part of the elephant he could feel—could convince millions of his followers that elephants are like fat snakes that hang from the sky so they will be completely unprepared for the actual thing. The point is, single stories with short-term goals often leave out important details, and technology has increased our ability to spread those short- sighted tales.

In a TED talk, Nigerian novelist and short-story writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie warned of the danger of a single story, even those stories with positive intent. As a little girl in Africa, Adichie read children’s books about white children living in Europe that both engaged her and left her feeling excluded. A book designed to teach European kids to read unintentionally sent her the message that the world wasn’t interested in brown kids. It is difficult to predict this kind of harm, but now that we can see the potential we can develop practices that lessen the risk. Part of the answer is to avoid the harm of a single story by providing a variety of perspectives.

It is part of the creative process for artistic storytellers to apply a variety of methodologies and to be suspicious of “yes/no” answers to questions that are too complicated for the “yes/no” binary. Imagine asking Van Gogh if yellow is the most important color. Any “clear” answer distracts the aspiring painter from learning that yellow’s importance (like all colors) changes depending on its proximity and relationship to other colors. A tiny speck of yellow on an otherwise dark canvas can be more meaningful than a canvas completely covered with the same yellow. Whatever clear answers you have adopted to guide your storytelling, it’s important to remember that there are lots of good answers and more than one good definition. Single definitions limit your stories to the constraints of that source’s point of view. Recruiting definitions of story from psychology, business, behavioral science, marketing, public speaking, anthropology, the liberal arts, and mythology are bound to improve the artistry of a storyteller, as well as mitigate the risk of blind spots.

Excerpt from Chapter 11, 3rd ed. of The Story Factor (2019)  AUDIBLE VERSION HERE

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April 15, 2020 by Annette Simmons 2 Comments

Storytelling: Moral Survival System (part two)

GettingScrewed

“That’s me getting screwed, but really …we take turns because when I feel screwed I end up passing it on.”

Circle of Moral Concern: Whose Lives Matter?

For want of a better term, let’s refer to those you feel obligated to protect as being inside your circle of moral concern. No one can tell you how big this circle should be. And no one can monitor your circle of moral concern, except you. You may have never considered how big this circle is, but you have one. We all do. Some storytellers only seek to benefit the people they are paid to serve. When political stories demonize either “the left” or “the right” they reduce our ability to imagine and create mutual wins. Commercial storytellers tend to limit their circle to commercially relevant targets. These storytellers have a small circle of moral concern and are more likely to risk coercive storytelling that benefits their tribe, even when (or especially if) it might sacrifice the best interests of people outside their circle of concern.

By contrast, many literary storytellers seem to embrace all of us in their circles of moral concern. Mark Twain’s Huckleberry Finn offers legitimate reasons for helping a friend when it means breaking an unjust law. Tolstoy’s story of Anna Karenina warns readers that a preoccupation over what is or is not fair might distract us from finding good practical ways to cope with unavoidably unfair situations. A storyteller with a very large circle of moral concern cannot ignore ambiguity and must constantly guess the impact the strategies in their stories might have on the wellbeing of strangers. The trade off is that a storyteller with a big circle of moral concern is more likely to see and narrate epic truths.

Storytelling, at its best, is a collaborative form of communication that accumulates wisdom and habits for social good as well as individual good. As Ursula Le Guin observed, “There are entire societies that have never used the wheel. But there are no societies that did not tell stories.”

Excerpt from The Story Factor 3rd ed. 2019 AUDIBLE VERSION HERE

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April 14, 2020 by Annette Simmons 2 Comments

Storytelling: Moral Survival System (Part One)

“Ships at a distance have every man’s wish on board.”

From a distance, storytelling also seems to have every man’s wish on board. There is an initial euphoria when you consider that once you learn how to tell stories that alter perceptions, conclusions, and actions you might become captain of all the ships and invent “Get out of jail free” cards for anyone who wants a story of absolution, whether they deserve it or not. Over time, like King Midas, you will discover that getting everything you want inevitably produces unintended consequences. When technology alters moral stories, it changes the meaning and the morals of those stories. King Midas did not anticipate that his golden touch would kill his daughter. In the story, his personal experience of watching the light in her eyes go out carries a sensory impact; we get the message. But when calculated on a spreadsheet, the promise of an infinite return on investment (ROI) after sacrificing just one person can seem like a viable investment strategy. What’s more, people who value utilitarian reasoning now use data distance to create enough emotional distance that they can characterize one person as a “small sacrifice” and therefore a reasonable price to pay. The question is, are you at risk of becoming one of them?

Each story we tell to achieve a personal or professional goal delivers suggestions on discerning right from wrong that imprints in us and in our listeners patterns of thinking about life. Calling this pattern “the moral of the story” is merely a functional way to discuss how stories shape our expectations about how the world works—in ways that then concretely shape how our world works. When I worked in advertising, we told stories that sent a clear message/moral that the pleasure and status of a new car was more valuable than the utility of driving the perfectly good car our customers had bought from us two years before. Over time, stories like this tend to teach us a lesson (or moral) that it is normal to trade sustainability for immediate gratification. Many storytellers look for ways to avoid unintended negative consequences. Others abdicate responsibility for the morals their stories encourage because it’s too complicated or not their job. That’s fine too. However, for the storytellers who, like me, want to ensure that storytelling continues to preserve morals, as well as make money, I’ve added two new chapters to this book. This first new chapter explores how different patterns of advice have developed based on the implicit agendas of the advice givers’ points of view. The second explores how storytelling might be evolution’s method of preserving our ability to collaborate in order to survive.

We can’t control how the “morals” of our stories will play out, and can’t confirm if any particular story is weakening our moral survival system until it’s too late. The best we can do is pay attention to the messages and morals embedded in the stories we tell and try to minimize the risk of doing harm to the people we care about. This raises an important question every storyteller should ask himself, “Who DO you care about?”

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March 16, 2020 by Annette Simmons Leave a Comment

COVID-19: The Stages Before Acceptance

Where are you in your journey of acceptance?

Where are you in your journey of acceptance of the COVID-19?

I had taken an early morning flight from Sydney to Melbourne and while I don’t really like orange juice I was bored. So I peeled back the silver foil and drank from the plastic cup on my tray. Later that day a radio announcer caught my attention with a public health announcement that “all travelers on flight #xxx from Sydney to Melbourne who drank any of the orange juice offered on the airplane should call a doctor immediately.”  That was three decades ago. But this COVID-19 pandemic reminds me of the feelings I felt that day. At first I was in denial. I don’t trust panic, and I don’t trust people who tell me to panic. (Now I can see it was prudence not panic.) I did not call a doctor and adopted a wait and see attitude. Then, when I couldn’t concentrate on my work I got angry. Poor me, I was minding my own business but NO…people who made mistakes (or worse) had impacted my life and now I faced the burden of going to see a doctor. It was the next stage, bargaining, when I finally did call a doctor. The second the doctor insisted on coming straight to my apartment to give me a shot, I moved on to depression. All this time I was treating this danger as if it were a made up tragedy. But dammit, it was real. To this date I don’t know what was in that orange juice. I do know that even with the doctor’s injection I spent two days in a special hell of barfing and diarrhea. The emotions I felt in that one day are very similar to my journey of acceptance regarding COVID-19.  I share this story, because I think my experience may have led me to acceptance just a bit faster.  Every minute, every hour, we spend in denial, anger, bargaining, or depression puts people we love at risk.  If you are still stuck in one of these stages…I highly recommend acceptance. Stay home. Stop bargaining to give yourself permission to attend one more gathering.  It took me six hours to call a doctor.  If I’d reached acceptance earlier, I might have saved myself some pain. I think the same goes for COVID-19.

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March 10, 2020 by Annette Simmons 10 Comments

Advice from an 80 yr. old shuttle driver…

Old Man in the Mountain: Before and After

Old Man in the Mountain: Before and After

New Hampshire is cold in March. I was happy to be heading home to North Carolina. The shuttle driver was napping behind the wheel. The sunshine warmed him through windshield. When I opened the passenger door he stirred,

“Thanks for waking me up!” He pointed. “Open that sliding door – that’s it, behind you – and put your bag anywhere you can find.”  The door was heavy. I used both hands to slide it back.  I hefted my bag high enough to fit on the seat above. Placed my backpack in front of it on the floor of the van and slid the door shut.

“Nah, you didn’t get it. Open it up and try again. You got to really slam it shut.”

I opened the heavy door, pulled it three feet back, then a little more. I took a running start and slammed the door into the lock mechanism.

“There you go, now get in here where it is warm. So how did you like New Hampshire? Did you get to spread your wings?”

“I got to go downtown last…”

“You need to spread your wings.  When you come back….what do you like: the mountains or the ocean? Of course the beach is the same anywhere. Did you know we have a mountain 6000 feet tall? We do. I used to be a truck driver and driving out … there was this old man – a rock formation, his nose, you could see his ears. Forty three years I’d look out the window and say “hello old man” then when I was driving back, “Hello old man.  Until he fell.”

My new friend points his finger high up and then whistles it down as he imagines the ancient rock formation from his memory crashing down to the bottom of the canyon. He seemed to stare at the rubble for a split second, then he mimics looking out the window again. “Forty three years I been saying hello to the old man. He’s not there anymore.”

“You got to spread your wings. Next time you are here you need to take a taxi, they won’t charge you that much. Go see something.  You can drive out toward Concord, just fields and farms. Serene. There’s God in that quiet. Cows don’t talk. Thank goodness. I guess. I’m a Catholic. I love my family. I’m one of seven. My mother was one of eighteen. They are all gone now. Now it’s just us. And we’ll be gone soon.

“So I’m putting away the material things and getting ready for the spiritual. I’m eighty. People say I don’t look a day over 65. (I thought he looked eighty.) I never drank. I don’t drink. Never smoked. I have diabetes but the doctor says I’m doing fine.

“You got to spread your wings. I loved all of my jobs. This one? This van is a toy I get to drive around all over everywhere every day. I get to meet people. I believe in dialogue. I flew down to Florida. I don’t like it there. They don’t understand hospitality. I don’t have a phone. I’m old school. I got on the plane and said, “Hello!” and the guy next to me he’s got his thumbs tapping and he doesn’t even look up. I say, “You can’t even say hello?” He doesn’t say a thing. I sat next to him the whole way and we don’t say nothing. That’s a shame. People don’t talk.

“I think this virus… it’s going to remind us that we need to value each other. We need to treat each other better. I think we are going to come together. We are like beads on a rosary, all linked together.”

“I was born on a farm up in Vermont. We had the farm table that sits fifteen. I was three and my mother says to us all after dinner, get on your knees and let’s say the rosary. I’m three. I tell her ‘I don’t know the rosary.’ She says ‘You will when I get through with you.’ I learn it in English. Then I learn it in French.

“Down at the bottom of that mountain is a lake they call Mirror Lake, because it is. You can look down into it and see the mountain. You got to spread your wings. It is silence that brings you back to peace. You can feel it. You know what I mean.”

He never let me say a word. And it was my own silence that let this old man’s imagery and poetry bring me some peace. Airplanes, hotels and conference halls cramp me up, particularly now that we have to be so careful. But this old man took me to the beach, drove me past the cornfields and showed me the mountain reflected in Mirror Lake. I got to spread my wings just listening.

Yes, I had to lug my own bags but that’s okay. I imagine him now back at the hotel finishing his nap in the sunshine his wings fluffed and relaxed.

 

 

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